In the E.R after D&C went wrong. Anyone else have this problem??

OH Dill, I am SO glad that you are ok and I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I did have that happen once after a D&C. It IS very scary when that happens. I'm glad you went to the hospital right away. I tried to handle it at home (not the smartest thing to do!!) and ended up passed out in a pool of blood. I was in the hospital for 4 days and almost had to have a hysterectomy at age 23.

I'm really glad you are doing better now although I know that was very scary! Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Big hugs, Suzee :0)

Thanks Suzee:)

Dill-I am so sorry for what you went through. That sounds terrifying! It is rare that a D&C would have such serious complications and I am so sorry you went thru that.

Suzee im sorry you also experienced such a serious complication. I am a little confused Suzee because in your info it says you are 45 with youngest child 12. If you have a 12 yr old child, you would have had them at 32/33-so how could you have had a hysterectomy at 23? Was your child adopted? Its just very rare for abusive men to allow adoptive children that is why I am confused. Sorry if i am asking a too personal of a question-my husband is verbally abusive & he refused to consider adoption. We have been trying for 3 yrs,and I think he would treat me nicer if i could have his child, so i was wondering how you convinced your abusive husband to adopt?

ViCxen she said she Almost had to get the hysterectomy** At 23 i would have been so sad to get one of those!! Im glad you didnt have to Suzee.

Sorry Suzee-just desparetely looking at ways to get my husband to consider adoption-but i guess the fact that its making me crazy--i should come to a point where if he wont support me in adoption process-then screw him-and i can do it on my own.

Dill-sorry for misreading. Glad your ok. You and Suzee sadly had a horrible & rare complication. If you haven't already please talk to a lawyer because I am sure you can/should sue your doctor for messing up that procedure. D&C are relatively simple & should not cause that level of trauma. I;m a Nurse Practioner & MidWife so have seen my fair share of D&C-although ive never had one myself. Hope you are resting & will feel better shortly.

HI Dill, how are you doing today? I hope you are feeling better! Please know I've been sincerely thinking about you today and sending prayers. I've been doing alot of writing today and when I took breaks, I had my prayer list. Praying really keeps me focused on love and truth and healing. :0) Be good to yourself and take time to heal.

VICxen, I am so sorry that you have been having such a tough time getting pregnant. But I have to tell you that you describing your husband as abusive and then saying that you think if you could get pregnant with his child he would treat you better... it just doesn't work that way. A baby won't solve anything!!!

Please do not pursue having a child with this man. Honest to God, it won't get better and your children will suffer for it. A baby NEVER makes an abusive man, not abusive. My husband being abusive has affected all of my children. There will be a whole lot of work and healing for us all to get over it all. Again, I'm so sorry to have to say these things, but my heart jumped in my chest when I read that.

Please know that you deserve a baby and you can do that, by yourself if you need too. It doesn't get better, I promise you. Please advocate for yourself and your future children, just like you'd advocate for a patient who is in your same situation. You deserve so much better.

I wish you only the best, Suzee

Thanks Vic and Suzee. Trying to feel better. had some cramping today not too much fun. But i had a lovely dinner with my fiance. Hes leaving tomorrow though so we had to celebrate valentines early. Hope work wont be to hard on me tomorrow. I havent work in over 2 weeks. Its going to be so weird. Just need a good nights sleep and a better attitude. Im getting really depressed. I need to find something to help. Im thinking about therapy. Andd Vic I wish you all the luck on adoption. Its an amazing thing!!! I have a friend and all her siblings are adopted. They have such an awesome family.

Hi Dill_07, I hope you are ok. I had two D & C so I Understand what you are going through. They were really rough on me, the first was was after my first child was born. I was about 2 1/2 months along. I had just went to the dr the day before and was told everything was good. Started having cramps,went to the bathroom and a there it went in the toilet and went to the er and they told me I was no longer pregnant and it looked like I didnt need an d & c. I went home and ran an fever for a few days I was found passed out in a pool of blood on the bathroom. I was rushed to the hospital and they gave me a d & c. The second one wasn't so bad the d & c was done right way.

My prayers are with you
Rochell

Oh my gosh. Im so glad my fiance was home when it happened. He had to basically help me stand up and dress me. i felt so weak walking to the car. I was terrified when I started pouring blood:( Right before i really started bleeding i couldnt take the pain so i called my doc and she wasnt any help she basically said it was my fault because i took a warm bath. the nurse at the e.r said it would have happened anyways. the warm bath had nothing to do with it because they didnt remove everythign in the surgery. The first time i read about a D&C i was thinking i hope that never happens to me and now it has and of course i had to go through all of this. Its been really hard on me. i found a new therapist and im hopefully going to make an appointment this week. I love thise site it helps but i need some serious counceling. this has torn me apart. I keep seeing babies and i get mad because i want mine soo bad. my friend who has a baby asked me if i wanted to come over...immediatly i said no.. my fiances sister has a baby and my fiance told me he fed her the other day and it made me cry..I want my baby so bad. i would do anything to get her/him back.

Dill I am so sorry for your loss & for the complications you experienced. I hope you continue to feel better. my prayers are with you