I feel so horrible..

It does get better, but it takes time. At least from my experience I don't think you ever stop missing your babies, but you learn to move on and not let it overcome you. You do need time to grieve, because it is a big loss.You are so strong for coming here and sharing with us. I will tell you though that if you truly want to have a healthy baby, your chances should be VERY good, to not lose hope. I sent you a message of my story, as it feels so personal it was hard for me to put on the main message board.
It's beautiful you have a name for this baby. That's a place to start, and if you weren't sure whether they were a boy or girl it might be helpful for you to come up with a boy name. Journal about the thoughts and dreams you had for this baby, and if it feels right, sooner or later when you are ready, you can try again and most likely have a healthy baby. I encourage you not to let fear be what stops you. May you be blessed.

Oh, to clarify something else: You are not to blame for this baby's loss. I have been told that so many times, and it's hard to believe. But don't blame yourself. Especially if you were doing whatever you possibly could for this baby. Sadly miscarriage happen more often than I knew until I began to experience them.

Thank you for that it's been so hard. My family is making me go out and all I see is babies... And that alot of my friends have babies or are going to have one and it just hurts so much... I was almost 12 weeks. We didnt mean to get pregnant but when we did we just became so excited... I just had this feeling that it would be a girl and my fiancé was so intent on it being a girl (he really wanted a daughter) that he wanted to wait till we found out for sure if it wasn't a girl before we even thought of a boys name... But he won't even talk about it to me because he is trying to be strong for me... I wrote a letter to my baby thinking it might help... An it did a tiny bit but it still hurts so much.. I feel so badly for feeling so sad I wish I could be stronger...

I am sorry for you loss and yes it do het better, its extreamly hard to lose a baby, its ok to be sad, that was your child. It will take time and you will cry a lot. Dont hold your feeling inside because it will eat you up. When i lost mine I was so alone didnt any anyone and I was married. Try talking to your boybriend, friend, or family member. Talking about the baby do help the process.

again i am sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you

Rochell

Yes, I will keep thinking of you..And continue to allow yourself to Grieve the LOSS of your child..That's probably your fiances way of dealing with it. I know my husband cares, but honestly it seemed he could care less, that he was even happy though I knew deep inside he was hurting very badly too. Hopefully in time it will get easier for both of you.

Im in the same boat. im almost 20 and have had 2 miscarriages..first one natural one i didnt know i was really pregnant. and a couple weeks ago i had a d&c.. with a ton of complications. so not only did i lose the baby and was trying to deal with that i was in miserable pain and rushed to the e.r 2 times:( Its been almost a whole month since i lost my baby. i was almost 9 weeks. It hasnt gotten any easier for me either.. ive cried everyday. and wont even talk to anyone who has a baby..ive started to resent them. I hope we both start to heal soon dear.

I will be thinking of you also Dill. This is so difficult to deal with, yet helpful to realize you are not alone. It is ok to feel sad, because losing a baby-or babies really is a big thing.

I was 14 weeks along, and I still hurt like hell. It gets better, after a while because you learn to surround yourself with good understanding people. There are people you can see, and it really does help to cry it out a few times.

Thank you everyone for your support... I'm really sorry about your miscarriages too... Its still so hard especially since I found out my sister is pregnant along with my best friend... I hate them because they are having a baby and I don't want to see them but I have to and it's just driving me more and more to the edge... How could you all handle this???